How to tell if someone is lying…

Lying makes things worse because it hurts your personal relationships, relationships with friends and family, brothers and sisters, parents, children, teachers, colleagues etc. Lying harms not only personal relationships but it can ruins business relationships as well. In conducting business we also put ourselves into the hands of others.

Have you ever noticed how badly you feel when you discover a friend has told you even a diminutive lie? It hurts a lot. You wonder why a friend would do that to you. We all lie but not all lies are harmful, sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy of ourselves and others. Sometimes it is told when the truth may not be told because it can harm the others.

Have you ever felt angry and didn’t want to speak to someone ever again for hurting your

feelings by telling a lie?  

No need to be worry now, just relax, cheer up and be happy. Here I want to share with you few useful tips by which you can easily catch who is lying to you and this knowledge is for anyone to use in everyday situations and can prevent you from being a victim of fraud and can catch that person red handed.

1.      How to tell if someone is lying based on the movements of their eyes. A person who is lying to you avoid making contact your eyes.

2.      A lair touches his face too much.

3.      A lair rubs his nose frequently.

4.      Scratching behind their ears.

5.      Expressions don’t match the verbal statement.

6.       People tend to sweat more when they lie.

7.      A person who is lying tries to lubricate their throat by swallowing or clearing their throat.

8.      A person who is lying uses the same convincing sentence again and again when they are asked to explain the situation.

9.      Sometimes facial expressions on his face reveal true emotion.

10.   A liar’s voice can also be a good indicator.

11.  An honest answer comes quickly from memory but lies require a quick mental review so if you really want to know that a person is lying pay attention to his reaction to your questions.

12.  A liar may speak more than natural by adding unnecessary details to convince you.  Sometimes they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

Lies also hurt me a lot, I really feel very bad but I usually forgive and never say even a single word to that person because I personally believe that life is too short to live, smile is the best medicine and forgiveness is the best act but truly speaking hurt is still there in my heart for that particular person.

By the way there are some situations where I also use this tool ;) 

If someone lies, how do you feel about it, how you detect it, and how do you react?

Accepting Disappointments

Disappointment is the feeling of failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. It is one of the life's most common experiences when life fails to satisfy expectations. Life is unpredictable and things do not always work out as planned. 

I think, we all experience disappointment sometimes in relationships, sometimes in poor job evaluations or test scores, death of a loved one, health challenges etc.

People shows different behaviors when they meet disappointment.

Some will respond it by becoming motivated to do better next time and they can easily bounce back from the disappointments of their life.

Others want to give up because it hurts the spirit and soul. Whenever we have disappointed by not receiving our expectation or goals we want to go into a shell or hide it from the world. I can say that disappointments can be very frustrating when we are trying to achieve our goal or a dream of our life and we don’t want to expect anything good anymore from anyone. Therefore our confidence continuing to die daily, due to this we feel like there isn’t anything to be positive in our life.

 I have also noticed that whatever is the situation most of the people smile and pretend like they are happy with their life but deep inside their heart they are angry, sad and disgusted by their disappointments in their life. The reason of their smile is that they don’t want other people to know what they feel inwardly. Moreover there are many people around us who are happy but they are very good at hiding their true feelings around other people.

Dealing with disappointment is a challenging skill to deal effectively with themselves and others in life.  All you need is to let go of the past, be positive and begin to feel hopeful about the future. Following are the tips which may be helpful for you to bounce back from the feeling of disappointment.

1.    You should accept the situation. Accept that disappointment is a normal part of life and if you try to avoid being disappointed, you will have a more difficult time and you will not be able to get through it.

2.    You must understand where you stand emotionally. It can help you to tackle with your moods, thoughts, confidence and self esteem.  

3.    Talk to your close-friend or relative, they can guide you through the recovery process in a safe and supportive environment. Sharing is a fast-healing process and it is also important for good mental health.

4.    Look for positive activities where you can recharge yourself.

5.    You must change the way looking at your disappointment. 

6.    The good thing about disappointment is that it gives us a lesson in life. 

7.    Don't give up. Think about what you have learned from other disappointments. Recall and identify what you gained and learned from each experience.

8.    Try to figure out whether your expectations are realistic or not.

9.    Identify the activities you most enjoy doing in your life, writing in your personal journal, playing games, walking in the park, watching a happy movie or talking to positive friends, do whatever makes you feel better.

10.  Sometimes spending time alone might be the best way for you to clear out your mental clutter and regain your personal energy.

I never take disappointment very seriously but when I am disappointed I pretend myself as I am very happy but deep inside my heart I feel very sad and angry. The reason of my smile is that I don’t want others to know about my feelings. But to overcome this situation, I find that a combination of activities including blogging, talking with my friends and spending time with my kids helps me to overcome disappointments and these things help me to lift up from lower state of mind to a higher level.

“You will make mistakes; accept it & move on to tomorrow”

What you people do when you feel disappointed, how you deal with this situation?