FEAR!!!!!!!!!
An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or
something is dangerous. It is one of the most basic human emotions. Fear not only makes you feel nervous but also
protect us or make us alert to danger and prepares us to deal with it and also helpful
in some situations, it can be like a warning, a signal that cautions us to be
careful.
When we sense danger our brain reacts instantly and sends
signals that activate our nervous system which causes physical responses, such
as a faster heartbeat, rapid breathing, and an increase in blood pressure and
our skin sweats to keep our body cool. Some people might notice sensations in
the stomach, head, chest, legs, or hands.
Most of the people have a
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Fear of speaking in public
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Fear of death
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Fear in decision making
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Fear of swimming
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Fear of driving
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Fear of death
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Fear of losing job
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Fear of rejection
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Fear of darkness etc
People tend to avoid the situations or things they fear but
this doesn't help them overcome fear — in fact, avoiding something scary
reinforces a fear and keeps it strong.
What I have personally noticed that speaking in front of others
is one of the most common fears people have. There is wisdom in the old saying, "practice makes
perfect." The more you speak in public, the more your confidence will
grow. If you tell yourself that you are going to fail, you probably will.
Conversely, if you tell yourself that you will succeed, you will. Fear of
speaking in front of others is a very detailed topic, in my net post I will
discuss it in detail.
Telling yourself that
you will succeed will definitely boost your confidence. The best way to
overcome this fear is to gain confidence in your ability. One more thing which
I want to add here is that lack of confidence will automatically lead to the
fear of failure.
Failure is an another fear, but keep this in your mind that the most
successful people in the world are those who failed so many times but they learned from their mistakes and they focused on continuing to try again and again.
This fear does not ended here in some of
the cases and it leads to fear of decision making.
A lot of people fear making decisions, yet they don’t
realize that by not making a decision they are actually MAKING A DECISION. If
you don’t decide to brush your teeth today, what happens? You don’t brush your
teeth. In effect, you are actually deciding not to brush your teeth if you
don’t DECIDE TO brush your teeth.
You know what, you are not basically afraid of making
decision you are actually afraid of making wrong decisions. For this explore
your feelings about the fear of failure. If you overcome that one, your fear of
making the wrong decisions will probably disappear.
Another fear which I have noticed while talking their problems
is the fear of losing job.
I think many people have a fear of losing job. Remember
the saying “Whenever one door closes, another one opens." Do not worry about what may happen next week
or next month. Things change all the time and it is impossible to predict what
may or may not happen. Do the best you can today and hope for the best.
But if you want to keep your job you have to prove your
worth, you have to stay late to finish a project and you have to show your boss
that you love your job and you are a important asset for your company.
Sometime you are doing your best but the company you work may
encounter some tough times or you may be fired due to some conflict between you
and your superiors. One of the best ways
to overcome this fear is to constantly work on improving the value you provide
to your company and become so valuable that your boss stays up at night
worrying about losing you.
People can overcome their fear by getting specific about what exactly
they’re afraid of. What are they really scared of?, my suggestion in this situation is that whenever fear strikes, flip it over. Instead of thinking of something
bad that can happen, think of something positive. For example if you’re thinking about public speaking, take deep breathes and imagine
yourself being wildly successful instead of failing horribly.
I hope you'll share your fears with me by commenting here.
